If you have found yourself with an unplanned pregnancy and you are unable to raise the child, you may want to consider the option of adoption. However, it is not as easy as just saying you want to give the child up for adoption. There are things to consider and decisions to make. Take a moment to review the following points so you can be sure that you are making the right decision for yourself and the child.
Do You Want To Keep In Touch?
There are two types of adoptions, which are open adoption and closed adoption. In a closed adoption, information about you as the birth mother, is kept hidden and not released to anyone. You will not have any contact with the child as he or she grows, and the adoptive parents are not going to be able to get a hold of you for any reason. With an open adoption, there is more contact between the birth mother and the adoptive parents and child. The exact amount of contact between everyone will vary from one adoption case to the next. Generally speaking, there will be some ground rules set in place, such as biological mother gets photos of the child twice a year and a visit once a year. However, everyone is allowed to get in contact with each other more often if they would like.
Is This Something You Will Be Able To Handle Emotionally
Some women feel blessed to be able to help a couple form a family when they may not have been able to biological do so on their own. Other women find that they have a hard time with the idea that they would have a living child in the world, yet they would not be there to raise them. To make sure that you are in the right place emotionally before moving forward with the decision to place your child up for adoption, you will want to set up an appointment with a counselor who specializes in adoption cases. This way, you will be able to get help going through the various emotions that you feel and you will get help figuring out whether this is truly the right decision for you.
When all else fails, you can speak with a family planning doctor, such as at Abortion Care, to see if he or she has any resources that they could refer you to. Whether you decide to keep the baby, have an abortion, or give him or her up for adoption, it is a major decision that you have to live with for the rest of your life. Therefore, you want to weigh out all of your options before committing to anything.